Post 2: What Is Love?

I spent some time with my bf the past couple of days, watching "The Proposal" and talking.  He got around to asking me how what I view love as.  So I asked him, what is love to he?  He said that he doesn't necessarily need to be with someone to love her, that to him love is providing the best for the girl.  Oh.

That got me thinking about what love actually is.  Being Sagittarius, I have a wide, extensive-expansive definition of love.  Though, now that I think of it, I cannot come to see how anyone can define love based on words alone.  It is often not what we say love is, it is how we show it.  So anyway, back to the wordy explanation of love.  Firstly, I have to say that it is a feeling.  We all feel love, don't we?  And then I have to say that it is a decision.  When we become someone's steady or life partner, I believe that at that point, a decision has been made to eternally cherish and care for that person, no matter how tough the situation can get.  I believe that love is a decision, because we are as capable to love, as we are of falling out of love.  When we fall out of love, it means that we have then made a decision to stop loving someone.  Follow?  Finally, I believe that love is also a series of actions.  Don't get me started on what actions, I won't be able to stop.  There are too many and they are too varied.

I also believe that love is different to each person for everyone is different and has experience different degrees of love.  I have always been a little spoiled.  Just like my sister mentioned in her blog, my parents do everything they can do give us all that they could possibly give.  Nothing is too great a sacrifice.  Giving without complaining and not expecting anything in return.  We are typical Asians and don't do much hugging and kissing and "I love you's" (if at all) but my siblings and I never for once doubted that our parents love us.  This is love for you on my parents' part.  And you think that that's what parents are required to do and are responsible for?  Think again.  There are people I actually know that do not have such loving parents.  Plenty of people I know thinks that I'm lucky to have parents like mine.  I also have a friend who hates going home so much, with the reason that he doesn't get along at all with his family, he spends his after work hours in the cybercafe.  I really do sympathize with him and cannot help but wonder what kind of home he has, and what kind of parents would make their son feel so depressed at home.

In addition to that, I also think that we can love more than one person.  Whoever says "I only love you" is definitely bullshitting.  I love my parents, I love my siblings, I love my bf, I love my books, I love my pillow.  The human ability to love is infinite.  Though I must say that we love different people differently.  For example, my love for my pillow as an inanimate object is, of course completely different from the love I have for my family, which is in turn totally unlike what I feel for my bf.  But I totally do not agree that you can love 3 or 4 women at one go, unless you're fine with your women love other men too, haha.  Anyway, seriously, in terms of committed venus-mars relationships, I always believe in monogamy.

Which brings me back to why I say that love is a decision.  As mentioned before, one could love more than one person.  Yes, even more than one man or woman.  But you can only love one, and disappoint all others.  Then love becomes a decision.  By choosing that one man, you are in fact making a decision to support and cherish, to be loyal to him, to share all his hopes and dreams, to care for him and his needs, to respect and honor him, and to love him and him only, for the person that he is.  Now, anything you want to add?