Post 11: Texting and E-mailing

I was reading one of those online forums of which I am a part and I came across a post of a woman who broke up with her man because she felt that he wasn't giving enough. She felt that she wasn't as important as the other aspects and people in his life. And it was partly because he doesn't e-mail or text her at work. Oh. My. God.

Let's start with some numbers (get them out of the way). How many hours do you spend at work? 8-10 hours each day including breaks and commuting. Probably longer, let's day 12 hours if you have to work overtime. But we do know that the standard working hour for most people is around 8 hours a day.

Will it kill you if you don't hear from your significant other within that plus minus 8 hours? He has WORK to do. Maybe his job isn't as laid back as yours. Perhaps he might get a telling of if he makes calls or sends e-mails that is irrelevant to his job. Maybe he likes to keep personal matters out of the work place. You can't always think that just because he doesn't e-mail you when he's at work, doesn't mean he doesn't care about you.

The reason that lady gave was that he could e-mail his brother at work. Er? Maybe there is a reason why he does that? That there is urgent matter they need to discuss? After all, what is the point of e-mailing your girlfriend at work? It will just be "I miss you, I love you, I need you...bla bla bla" on repeat. You could do that outside work. Whereas when men contact men, you can be sure that it isn't that that they're mushing around. I don't call my brother just because either. I usually insert a question after "hello".

Do I text my bf at work? Nope, he doesn't reply as there's usually no credits on his phone, haha! I do call him for a few minutes during my break time though. Even if he has credits on his phone, I still wouldn't bother if he doesn't call or text. (He does, in case you're wondering). Work keeps me occupied. Lucky he doesn't have the mindset of a girl. That is, if I don't reply to his texts, means I don't care. Fortunate too, that he doesn't spam me with texts. =X

Are we women really so insecure that we would base our SO's love on work hours texts and e-mails? Geez, I really hope not.

Post 10: Count Your Blessings

If only we could, every night before we sleep, feel thankful for the things we have, rather than wish upon a star for things we hope to get. See, not so selfish right? To celebrate my 10th post (yay!) here are the 10 things I am and will always be extremely grateful for. In no particular order (XD).

Family

Think of all the people who have lost their loved ones to war (like, back in the Napoleonic times, whatever), who have family living miles away from them, who have never known their mother/father/brother/sister/grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins...bla bla. You know what? I sometimes don't value how loving and unique my mom, dad, sis and bro are. Yes, the drive me bananas sometimes, but it's hard imagining having another family.

Friends

No man is an island! This much is true for me, though I don't have lots and lots of friends, but those I do have, are supportive and loyal. They know who they are. The people who jumped right into the hot soup with me, and sometimes scoops me out with a ladle. Extremely fun and funny, you guys just make life easier to bear. At least I'm not the only bodoh one.

Home

I have a roof over my head! Looking back on the disasters from 2004 until now, I really am one of those lucky ones.

Food

I can eat anything I want, whenever I want, when some people only live on scraps, and some have nothing at all =( Don't start lecturing me when I'm pigging out about my weight. At least I'm not wasting food.

Money

Not rich, but at least I don't have to beg. I think that speaks enough for this topic.

Soap and Water

I'm totally serious. With such heat and humidity, thank goodness I get to bathe more than once a day. Ah...the simple luxuries of life.

Technology

Wonder what we'll do without Facebook, iPhone, GSC and Shopaholic novels. What will we do for comfort? Will I have to manually start a fire to roast me own chicken wings?

Unconditional Love

I am hot-tempered, am rude, am fat, am irrinoying, am lazy, am extravagant, am mean, scheming, evil and bitchy, but it's nice to know that someone loves me despite it all.

Literacy

I can read, write and count (not well, but still, I know how to count money, ha!) as are most Malaysians, but let's not forget our peers in other countries, they are not so fortunate.

Peace

There are no Ironman 2 inspired drones flying overhead. I count myself blessed.

Amen